Roughly half of all marriages end in divorce, and it is rarely a positive experience for either party involved. No matter how bad the relationship you are leaving may be, there are bound to be feelings of loss and sadness. You may feel like a failure, or be certain that you will never love again. To say that you will be stressed out is probably a severe understatement. All of these emotions, and a million others, will hit you, one or several at a time. Of course, your feelings may also include relief, and that is normal as well.
Divorces do not just happen overnight. Typically, there are months or even years of conflict that build up as time passes, and one or both of individuals involved finally reach a breaking point. There are often other factors, such as infidelity or abuse, but it could just be that the two of you have grown apart. All of these reasons can be valid reasons for a split, and they are also all extremely painful in their own ways.
After you have loved someone enough to go down the road of marriage, and possibly had children, the breakup will push so many buttons. You are not only losing a friend, a lover, and a partner, but you are also likely giving up dreams and plans for the future, and maybe even your home. The worst part for many couples is the fact that they will not be able to spend as much time with their children as they are accustomed.
It can be very difficult to take care of yourself properly while you are going through a divorce. It is not unusual to have trouble functioning normally. Eating and sleeping can become major challenges. This is a time when you should not hesitate to take advantage of love and support from those who care most about you. It is important that you do all you can to get your required rest, and that you find ways to reduce your stress, whether it be through exercise, therapy, or even medication. Ottawa has many well-qualified physicians and counselors who can help you through this time.
Try not to look at your divorce as the end of life as you know it, but rather as a chance to start anew. Do not engage in self-destructive behavior, but rather try and focus on your positive qualities, and find or revisit favorite hobbies that you may not have had time for, to occupy your thoughts and keep your emotions from running wild.
Although it is not normally a good idea to date right away, you should use this opportunity to reconnect with old friends, and get out and meet new people. There are lots of ways for Ottawa residents to connect with others in the area, whether it be through special groups for those who are recently separated or divorced, or if it is through sports, going to the gym, or taking some kind of class.
Search your heart and soul, think about and recognize the part that you have played in the deterioration of this relationship, and find ways to improve yourself. Lean on others if you need to, but also find the strength within yourself to accept responsibility for your faults and to change your bad habits. No one will benefit from you dragging excessive baggage into your next relationship. Often, keeping a journal or talking to a therapist is a wonderful way to sort out all that you have been through, and to learn from it.
Contemplating a divorce? Ottawa Family Lawyers:
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